How To Handle Cheating

Geplaatst op 28-04-2026

The phone rang, it was late – maybe 3 am. I rolled over still half asleep and pawed around my nightstand for it. It was my steady – Christ what could she possibly want at three in the morning?

“Hello?”

“[alpha]?”

“Yeah, baby. What’s up?”

“I cheated on you.”

How Do You Handle This?

What would you do? The above is a situation I went through in my blue pill days. It was actually with my very last girlfriend before finding game, and it was this situation that propelled me into becoming the man I am today.

I remember she was in tears – she had absolutely lost it. I’ve always been, at the very least, a man. I didn’t think about how hurt I’d just become or how our relationship would work from here on out – none of that. I clicked into rational male mode, you know that mindset when your logic circuit engages and you have to handle some sort of emergency situation with a degree of competence and efficacy.

I calmed her down and asked her what happened. She explained and I tried to talk her into admitting that it was rape (yeah, I was a huge pussy back in the day). I told her loved her (I mean, a dripping vagina) and that everything would be all right (yeah…) and to just go back to bed and get some sleep. I never really brought it up with her again. Predictably our relationship went down the drain and about a month or so later it was over.

Suffice to say, I handled it wrong.

A cheating woman is a touchy situation and it takes a bit of both perception and experience to understand exactly what is going on. When a man cheats it’s because of his biological programming. Men are polygamous by nature and are genetically programmed to breed according to number of mates and not necessarily quality of mates (though some quality is required). In other words, men cheat because we wanna stick it in something new.

Women cheat because they’re hypergamous<, that is to say that they must have the seed of the most valuable male they can access. What has happened, when a woman cheats, is that you – as a man – have lost value in her eyes. You have lost enough SMV (sexual market value) that your value is lower than hers in her eyes. She sees you as weak. Your genes aren’t the ones she wants to pass on. Women cheat because they “lost interest” or “things just aren’t the same.”

You’ll notice that the excuses women commonly give to cheating are intangible. This is most likely because they refuse to understand how their own genetic programming works. When a woman cheats its because you were “different” or “not the same man [she] married.” Other terms you’ll hear women throw around willy-nilly as if they had some sort of significance are, “emotional abuse”, “distant”, and “emotionally unresponsive.”

If I could side track for just a second: What the hell does ‘emotional abuse’ entail, exactly? He sometimes hurt my feelings, too!

I suppose the best thing I could write about would be keeping your value so that she never cheats in the first place. Unfortunately that is a topic much to large for a single post and needs an entire blog – fortunately, such a place exists!

How you handle a cheating woman greatly depends on your relationship with her. Were you married? Well hey, theres your get out of jail free card – you might not even have any alimony!

Alimony? What the hell does that mean?

For the purposes of this blog, I’ll just assume you’re seriously dating her, and you can take the advice I give and tweak it depending on your specific situation – however, if you’re not sure please email me as I would be more than happy to offer you personally specific advice so you don’t charge in blind.

Proper Method To Handle Cheating

The reason she cheated in the first place is because you lost value in her eyes – right? So then the key to fixing things after she’s cheated is by restoring your value in her eyes. This will keep her from cheating on you in the future and – if you still want to be with her – will get her even more attached to you. If you manage to internalize what I’m about to tell you, you’ll actually save yourself some heartache as well.

The key is to go nuclear. Not by screaming and yelling – that wont accomplish much and is mostly beta bravado to try and trick her into thinking you’re alpha. No, you have to go nuclear with a neg. Had I known then what I know now, my conversation that night would have been entirely different:

The phone rings, its 3 am and I’m dragging ass tired. Wipe the sleep from my eyes and grab the phone – it’s my steady. What the fuck? Oh well, have to answer it.

“What?”

“[alpha]?”

“What do you want?”

“I cheated on you.”

Take a moment of silence. Not because I’m shocked or hurt, but because I’m trying not to fall asleep again.

“You woke me up to tell me that?”

“What? I just, I’m so sorry, I…”

“Stop, just stop. I’m not your gossip buddy. Call one of your girlfriends next time you want to talk about this shit. Its late, I’m going back to bed. You should get some sleep too.”

“You’re not-”

-Click-

And then I should have rolled over and gone back to sleep.

The way you handle a cheating girlfriend is by simply not giving a flying fuck that she’s cheated on you. This belittles her problems (a DHV), displays that you are an unshakable rock (DHV) and shows her that you are clearly not concerned with the longevity this specific relationship (preselection).

In man logic, that last one may seem like it works against you. In fact, in man logic it does work against you – you wouldn’t want to be with a woman who didn’t care about how far the relationship goes. However, in woman logic, its simply not that large of a factor. She wants to know that you’re a valuable man with options, and not pedestalizing her or the relationship is a neg that telegraphs precisely that.

So remember, if you find out your significant other is cheating on you with another man, the best course of action is to show her an unwaivering confidence and air of dominance over your household, your emotions, and her emotions – and the best way to do that is to simply give no shits. The more you can feel, in your own heart, at peace with not caring (or not showing her you care), the easier it will be on you as well.

Since then, I’ve had girlfriends ask me if it was okay if they went to parties. I respond to such requests, typically, with, “I don’t care, you’re your own person.” Not only do I tell them that, I treat them like that and I believe it in my heart.

Haven’t been cheated on since, and if it does happen I guess I’ll just have to live with being in an open relationship.